Law 11: Find Comfort in Your Solitude

Judgment: When people start paying attention to you, it’s not always admiration—they might just be loading the gun.

Introduction

It’s not easy being the prettiest girl at the dance.

When people start listening to you, they stop listening to someone else—and that shifts the balance.

That kind of energy? It intimidates people. It threatens the system.

So if you’ve got it—whatever “it” is—you better learn how to carry it without needing company. Because the spotlight gets hot. And not everyone clapping is clapping for you.

Transgression of the Law

A rising vape and concentrate brand out of southern New Mexico was on the edge of a breakthrough. One of the largest retail chains in the state had taken notice—they were on the list, and a $30,000 PO was on the table.

Wanting to seal the deal, the team did some digging, hoping to connect with someone inside. They found the lead extractor through social media. Perfect—until they saw his most recent post.

A full-blown rant trashing their stores by name.

Accusations. Insults. Burn-it-all energy.

The message was clear: he didn’t respect the operation.

So the retailer took them off the list.

The opportunity was gone in seconds—and now, they were on a different kind of list.

Observance of the Law

A young manager had finally started building a name for herself online. Smart posts. Real insight. A growing following. She was hitting her stride.

Then came the blowback.

A Facebook group lit up with rumors. A smear campaign. Other industry girls accusing her of being fake, arrogant, a know-it-all. They didn’t just gossip—they tried to sabotage her.

She lost her account.

Almost lost her job.

But she didn’t react. She didn’t fire back.

She bit her tongue.

She made her list.

And she kept going.

And quietly, people noticed.

Some reached out in support.

Some started listening more closely.

Because in the silence, they saw the strength.

She knew she was doing something right.

She just needed to hold her ground long enough to prove it.

Interpretation

Power in this industry doesn’t come without resistance. The moment you start shining, someone will try to dim you. That’s the price. But don’t let it shake you.

Solitude isn’t isolation—it’s control.

It’s knowing when to speak, and when to keep the ammo dry.

It’s understanding that not every insult needs a reply, and not every spotlight is safe.

Your power isn’t in how loud you are.

It’s in how well you manage the silence around you.

Keys to Power (How to Use It):

• Know your words have weight. Don’t waste them.

• Stay off the keyboard when emotions are high.

• Build a list, not a scene. Keep track. Watch. Adjust.

• Let people show their cards. You don’t need to play yours yet.

• Don’t chase validation. Power walks alone.

Reversal (When It Might Not Apply):

If someone crosses a line publicly—harassment, false claims, threats—you have every right to defend yourself. But even then: respond with facts, not fire. Because your character will echo louder than your clapback.

Margin Notes:

“You don’t always need a rebuttal. Sometimes the silence says it all.”

“You will be tested, you will be judged, and you will be held accountable”